Here are a few tricks that the mind can play to be aware of:

What happened in the past:
As valuable as this can be for learning / growth, this can keep you obsessing about the past - or your assumptions based on what you think you know about it - rather than where you are right now. You only need to look at the world political ’stage’ to see how this plays out.

What should have happened:
Haha this is an even deeper mind trap. It’s a tempting one, but it can be a difficult hole to get out of. And while you’re stuck in it life will be passing you by.

What should be happening:
This one is far more appealing and tempting. It’s related to it’s deliciously tempting friend ‘What if’. Their value is that they it can help you to explore possibilities. However, beware it can leave you at odds with what is.

Stay tuned for more potholes to beware of.

Rasheed Ogunlaru is a leading life coach, motivational speaker and is author if The Gift of Inner Success.